– “Fear and anxiety versus curiosity and excitement.”
This page will attempt to help you with questions like: What do I do about feeling uncertain? What should I think about it, and what does it mean? (Quick answer: uncertainty is simply a reminder to check where you’re going, and a welcome reminder that nothing is ever actually certain ever.)
Another three minute guide to a common thought/feeling (a la The 3 Principles).
My Thoughts About Feeling Uncertain
I can give you a great example, right now, about how I deal with feelings of uncertainty.
Right now, I’m creating a series of 3 minute heroes videos (thoughts about feelings) that no one has asked me to create and that no one is particularly taking notice of. So why create them? What will it lead to? Will it get me more clients? Et cetera…
I am uncertain as to why I create these videos, why I write these accompanying 3 minute pages (like this one), other than it feels good to do so.
Even if this achieves nothing material in the outside world – more video views, more visitors, more chance of being noticed – it is still the right thing to do. Sometimes, you just have to move without knowing where it takes you – you move, that is enough.
Sometimes, I Don’t Like Uncertainty Either…
And, of course, I don’t always like uncertainty – my thoughts about feeling uncertain are not always thoughts I enjoy. And these thoughts bounce into my life here, it seems:
- In relationships – Does she like me? Do I like her/fancy her? Is this going to work out? (Where is she right now? And why do I need to know?…)
This type of uncertainty discomfort I really think is a form of insecurity. Nothing more, nothing less.
And there is nothing wrong with feeling insecure – just as long as you don’t take it seriously. (And, for the most part, I don’t.)
Like feeling foolish then, it seems I can both embrace thoughts of uncertainty and be uncomfortable with them. That, then, is the dance of my life – and maybe your life, too…
About Feeling Uncertain – The Inside-Out Understanding
Uncertainty is a fact of life. Nothing is certain, except death (and taxes – if you’re not a multinational company, that is). Each moment is brand new. You know that it is. I know that it is. And yet we think we need to exert control over our lives to feel safe.
This is just a misunderstanding of how life works (and life works from the Inside-Out, of course), and we are not in control of life.
And you most likely know this – you know that you are creating your experience of life moment by moment. That uncertainty is the default. You know this. And yet, yet you (and I) keep forgetting.
It is this forgetting that is the problem – when our thoughts about feeling uncertain start to trouble us. Yes, we are reminded of our forgetting by insecure thinking – by not knowing what is going to come next (what might they think next about us, etc.) and being bothered by that.
The opposite of an insecure response to uncertainty is excitement, non-bordom; is literally not knowing what the next moment will have to offer you and yet you are overwhelmed with amazement and awe for life. I’m thinking when you go travelling in a new country. Of when you’re looking at your new born baby. When you’re seeing with new eyes.
Uncertainty is the Only Certainty
- Uncertainty is the default
- We welcome uncertainty, we literally love each and every moment of it
- Until we don’t, until we make uncertainty a fearful experience and try to do everything in our powers to ‘control things’
Such is the dance of life, I believe. And the more you embrace uncertainty, actively and openly live through it, the greater your life experiences. (So learn to dance, baby, learn to dance!)
Wow, and you know that sounds like a great pitch for transformative coaching, it really does. Because if transformative coaching results in anything, it results in being more comfortable with the unknown.
About Feeling Uncertain – Video
Here’s what I was inspired to share in a video I recorded in October, 2015:
What Are YOU Thinking?
Is this making sense to you? Either the words I’ve shared, or the 3 minute hero video I recorded. Do you agree or disagree about my thoughts about feeling uncertain (bout uncertainty) – I’d love to know!…
"Leave everything undefined, including yourself. Befriend uncertainty. Fall in love with mystery. Kneel at the altar of not knowing. Give your questions time to breathe. The answers will find you." – Jeff Foster
Explore what happens to your problems when you leave yourself 'undefined'...
(1-2-1 transformative coaching conversations are a powerful way to explore the human condition. First conversation always free.)