– Not What You Think, But That You Think
…The formless not the form. The thinker not the thought. Awareness, not what one is aware of. ALL of these are distinctions between 3 Principles spiritual coaching and traditional coaching. As I hope I illustrate in the emails I sent to a client below…
[Last updated: July, 2016 – post summary]
Introduction – Transformative Coaching Client Email
What follows is an email I sent a client, recently, as part of our transformative coaching (spiritual coaching) work together.
The client wanted to know how the 3 Principles aligned with his core (spiritual) values. And I shared my response…
I wonder whether you might recognise your values below; whether you, too, might be able to let go of them (as Rumi suggests) knowing that they will return, they will always return, as they are part of Who You Already Are…
Spiritual Coaching: How The 3 Principles Align With My Values
Email to Client B:
Before I get specific about your particularly values, B, I just want to say a couple of things:
1. I am no expert in the three principles. I just talk about what I see. And I see that I am just a living and breathing example of the three principles in action, as are you.
2. The three principles are merely a simple description of how life works, of how you and I work. Without believing in any of the thinking that seems to come with being a human adult, we would – literally! – be baby-like in our living presence on this planet.
Spiritual Coaching and Being Baby-Like…
So, imagine you are a human baby now, would you ever be interested in your values, in any values OTHER than to stay baby-like?
So let’s take a look at your ‘values’, and your implied question about how understanding the three principles will affect these core values.
- Living in the moment
(Or, how to be present?)
- Living with gratefulness / forgiveness / happiness / soul consciousness
(Or, how to live an authentic life of integrity and highest conciousness?)
- Living from universal energy
(Or how to live from the Principle of Mind?)
The short answer to your question is this: these values that are important to you ARE WHO YOU ALREADY ARE.
This is the baby-like person in you that is always there inside of you, but for your thinking and for your taking that thinking seriously. There really is nothing to do, or to think, to return to this natural state.
1. A baby is living presence, no?
2. A baby is grateful and happy, and forgives and forgets very quickly.
3. A baby is unaware of *I*, only aware of ‘the all’
Now, I’m not saying this baby example is a perfect example. And as adults it is highly unlikely we will ever return to this innocence, no matter what our spiritual mastery becomes. I’m just saying your values are natural ones – you really have nothing to do, other than to stop doing, as and when you notice that doing (striving/seeking/fixing…).
3 Principles Spiritual Coaching – Example:
Let’s day you notice how much you do not care for a person at work, how they seem to judge you. This bothers you, makes you angry and also inadequate in that you yearn for a deeper connection with this particular human being.
In time, as you deepen your understanding of the inside out nature of the human experience, you will simply value this discord as one of many experiences you can have with another human being. It will not be better or worse, it will simply be what it is.
But, peculiarly, the more you accept the connection as it is, the more loving that connection will become – because it is human beings’ natural state to love like this with another.
May sound far-fetched, but – deep down – you know this is true.
ALL of your values will be easier to effect, if you’re still noticing their lack, from a place of non-judgement, from a place of kind patience, all of them. But, I think you will start to notice how much you are already living from this place, already embodying your values right now, and the importance of these values will diminish, as you return to the only moment that exists – this one.
Spiritual Coaching and Soul Consciousness
As for Soul Consciousness, again I am no expert on what this term means – especially what it means to you – but it strikes me there is a judgement being made that tells you that you do not yet have Soul Concsciousness.
How do you know this to be true? Really?
No judgements can be trusted, B.
Really, nothing is wrong. Everything is okay. The world is as the world is. You are as you are.
Spiritual Coaching and ‘Okayness’
As Maya Angelou quite wonderfully puts it, via her simplistic words,
“I did then what I knew how to do.
Now that I know better, I do better.”
And knowing better is natural. Especially if you look in the direction that the three principles is pointing you to – inside.
You will never be perfect, B, and neither will I. You will always be making mistakes, and so will I. Your levels of Soul Consciousness will always ebb and flow. And this is okay. Sometimes we live from our values, we live in the present moment, we appreciate life and everything in it… and sometimes we don’t. Sometimes we have an off day. This is okay.
Our being okay with whatever life brings, with whatever we bring, is what matters.
No matter how much baby screams in the night, the wisest of parents know nothing is wrong with baby. Baby is just being baby.